First time here
Hi. This is my first time at this club. My best
friend and my husband are both diabetics. My husband
lives in denial of it for 9 years now. We have had so
many go-arounds. I have gone the gamut from being
patient and understanding to being a raving bitch. Now I
just feel myself withdrawing from him because I am
angry that he does not even try to take care of
himself. We have been married for almost 32 years. He was
diagnosed 9 years ago, and is now suppose to be taking 2
injections a day, plus medication. Long story short, about
two months ago he quit taking his insulin all
together. He doesn’t exercise or watch what he eats (but he
is not overweight). I have nagged him until he now
takes his morning insulin, but not on a regular
schedule. Sometimes at 8 and sometimes closer to noon. He
doesn’t eat on schedule, etc. He only checks his sugar
when I nag him. This morning I went into his glucose
monitor and checked the readings in memory. The lowest
was 199, the highest was over 300. Our doctor knows
how he is and tells me that nobody can help him if he
doesn’t want to help himself. I just can’t understand
why. He says he loves me, but how can he–if he
doesn’t care about the worry he puts me through?
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October 10th, 2006 at 6:42 pm
Sounds to me like he doesn’t love himself. And if he doesn’t he will never feel
worth saving. This is deeper than either you or I can go. Would he consider
seeing a conselor with you?<br